Women rules for dating men
We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.
We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!
That doesn’t mean I use them all the time, but at least I know what they are.
Online dating, like anything else, has some etiquette rules everyone should follow.
Here are Rules to help you be light and breezy in your e-mails: It all sounds good on paper, but you cannot write “soul mate” and think you will get one that way.
A soul mate is someone who responds to your ad, doesn’t give up e-mailing you, tries to get your number to get a date with you and is a loving and fun companion. So beyond looking desperate, it is really a waste of time to write down “waiting for my soul mate” or anything like it.
While I may have rolled my eyes about this as a teenager (who didn’t?!
), it’s so nice to be able to have a good base of etiquette and manners.
Etiquette | Texting & Messaging | Safety Growing up, my mother used to teach etiquette classes, so I grew up knowing which fork to use when, how to be chivalrous, and how best to communicate your ideas.
But get a grip and tell yourself there is no shortcut to courtship, things take time, so you must not act impatiently or desperately.
You are a CUAO (Creature Unlike Any Other), remember?
Listen, I have no problem if you want to add 1 inch or subtract five pounds. But, if the profiles I read are any indication, EVERYONE seems to be “a world-class traveler who’s happy chilling at home on a Friday or hitting the town, loves to explore ethnic restaurants, and enjoys outside activities like hiking, kayaking, or biking.” And then when you go on a date, they’d rather Netflix and chill, or they enjoy sleeping in on a Saturday and lounging around eating pizza. It’s just that you don’t want to misrepresent yourself.
We’re all saying these things because we think that’s what others want to hear, but the more you disguise yourself, the less chance you have of finding someone who’s totally into what you are into.